This has been a long time coming. 

I’m writing this as I drink a cup of coffee, to get the juices flowing. My cats would like me to get up and open the front door for them but it’s not the time, I’m busy. 

Let me say this up front: I am not a qualified psychologist. 

I intended to be, when I did my MSc in Psychology, but then I moved abroad and that became a lost dream. For now, at least. 

The reason that I studied psychology is the reason that this website and this service exists. I care about people. I care about their pain and their worry and their feelings of being stuck with no way out. The thing is, I was twenty-one when I started the Masters and I was myself incredibly stuck and in pain and riddled with anxiety. Like this kitten we got from a farm when I was a kid, who came with such a thick coat of fleas that you could scoop them off her with your fingers. That’s how I see myself when I look back, so thickly coated with trauma responses that you couldn’t really see me. 

During the course, I learned a lot of theories and approaches to clinical psychology (the type concerned with treating mental health issues). None of it was a waste - and I do try to Pavlov Dog myself to get excited about administrative chores - but none of that information could make sense of what was wrong with me.

Since I graduated, there’s been a wealth of publicity about complex trauma, ADHD and autism, which I think is absolutely fantastic (and who cares if it’s “a trend”). I read books, I went to therapy, I collected diagnoses, I had an embarrassing number of epiphanies followed by tantrums, I made lifestyle changes, and I learned. Over five years, I experimented on myself and became both the patient and the clinician. And slowly, I got rid of the fleas. 

I am offering this service not because I want to make money (clearly) but because I believe I have a lot of keys to offer people whose lives are under padlocks. If any of the symptoms on the homepage rang true for you, I believe that I can help you. 

Warmly,

Tay.